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Dear Sex Counselor,
How should I use Ben Wa balls? Should there be any concerns when inserting Ben Wa balls into my partners vagina? Where should they be placed for maximum satisfaction?
 Ahh ... Ben Wa Balls. They are a sex toy of mythic proportions and minuscule dimensions. Some women report that they enjoy using them during partner play. The proper positioning of the balls, if you are aiming for G-spot stimulation, would be up in the front of the vagina. The only place you should not aim for is up behind the cervix toward her back. She's not likely to feel them very much, and they may not be able to move around her vagina very well.
Please do realize that, by themselves, Ben Wa Balls at most only provide light stimulation. Some women do say that they enjoy intercourse while wearing Ben Wa Balls, and their partners report pleasure from encountering the balls in the vagina during thrusting. As always, the best thing to do is to experiment together, and talk about what feels good and what doesn't.
But I thought I'm supposed to be able to wear them around for stimulation throughout the day ...
While some places do advertise Ben Wa Balls as being nice to wear around throughout the day, most of our customers have found that they don't work very well for that purpose. Because they are so small (each ball is the size of a medium-sized marble), they are very difficult to hold inside the vagina while walking around. Even if a woman is able to clench her PC muscles tight enough to hold them in, it wouldn't be very comfortable for her to walk around all day with clenched PC muscles!
If you're looking for something that will stay in place inside the vagina and provide mild stimulation while walking around, try Smart Balls. They're shaped and sized such that they're much easier to keep in place while standing, and are made of two connected silicone orbs that each house smaller metal balls on the inside. When you move, the metal balls move, creating a very mild vibration that some women find stimulating. It most likely won't be enough stimulation to lead to orgasm in most women, but it will probably make you more away of your vagina and mildly aroused for the time you wear the Smart Balls.
Enjoy!
The Sex Counselor
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