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Sexual Process, Act 2: Interest, Libido & Desire
Interest in sexuality means that sexuality has your attention engaged, while desire conveys a sense of longing or hoping for. Interest or desire in being sexual is a mind-based event (cognitive), and is often described as a burning or smouldering fire in the mind.
When thinking about interest/desire questions, ask yourself: is the situation one where willingness is present? If willingness is NOT present (on behalf of any potential people involved), then we're no longer considering a consentual sexual situation since willingness itself defines a situation as sexual. (Go back to Act 1: willingness, to get more information.)
If everyone potentially involved is willing to be involved in a sexual situation, then you can further consider the level of interest or desire for futher sexual activity.
(If you're used to describing this Act 2 as Libido, that's ok, as long as we're all describing the same thing. It's all well and good to use fancy-schmancy words like Libido (a word made up by Dr. S Freud meaning (quote) emotional or psychic energy that in psychoanalytic theory is derived from primitive biological urges and that is usually goal-directed). But for some people this pseudo-Latin word Libido is confusing, so we stick with Sexual Desire for clarity.)
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