Oils as Sexual Lubricants: pros & cons
posted: 06/02/2006 12:00 am
Dear Dr. Myrtle,
Can’t I use oil as a sexual lubricant?
Oils are lubricants, and some people use them as sexual lubricants without any problem whatsoever. As long as you know yourself, your needs, and the potential issues involved, you may be able to use oils sexually. But before you do, consider all of the facts.
The Oily Debate
Some of the advantages of using oils as a sexual lubricant are:
I get that part: those are significant advantages.
However, oils have some significant disadvantages as well:
- The oils commonly found in moisturizing soaps (ex. Dial), when used on the genitals, stay on the skin. When that same person goes to use a condom, *POP*. Or if a favorite silicone stretchy ring or toy breaks after just a few uses, look to the use of personal (oil-based) moisturizers as a potential cause.
- Who doesn’t like to moisturize newly-shaven skin with a lotion? Well, for those who shave their genitals, know that most after-shave lotions contain oil. If you use latex or soft-silicone products afterward moisturizing, you’re likely diminishing the life of that product or latex condom, and increasing your exposure to sexually transmitted infections.
Slick Lubricant Solutions
Since we can’t always forsee the future, the use of non-oil products means that oil residues will not be present should you choose to be sexual with a new partner. If you don’t use oil, you won’t have to worry about future potential latex breakage.
Great alternatives to oils exist: silicone-based lubricants provide the same physical sensation as oils, but do not have as many disadvantages. It is true that silicone lubricants are more expensive than food-based oils, and can also break some soft-silicone toys. For thinner consistency, consider ID Millenium, or choose UberLube for a thicker, more cushioning silicone lubricant.
Some of the glycerin-based lubricants, such as Sex Grease, or non-glycerin non-silicone lubes, such as Maximus, will last a very long time, giving you the sensation you’re looking for in a non-oil product.
For those still interested in using oils, most people agree that long-chain almond oil is the best suited. If you go this route, please find a source of organic, highly purified oil, and make sure to ask a partner about allergies.
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