posted: 05/17/2006 12:00 am
Dear Dr. Myrtle,
I have searched for an answer to this problem to no avail. Whenever my boyfriend and I have sex, we like the "doggy" position. The problem is, after a while I get these rude sounds emitting from my vagina, like a fart. After a while, as soon as the air starts building up, I start drying up, and that hurts. And then, sometimes even more embarrassing, I end up peeing on myself - why, I don’t know. I just have this urge to go and for the life of me, I cannot hold it in. Please help! I enjoy sex with him, but he can’t understand why these things happen, and I can’t give him explanations, either.
Many women and men like vaginal penetration with the woman penetrated from behind. The man may be able to penetrated deeper into the vagina, and have more vigorous penetration, and women will have much more friction on their G-Spot and T Zone. The "fart" sound that you are hearing is just air that is being pushed in by his thrusting. Your uterus will also rise up (towards your belly button) in this position, so expanded vaginal space becomes a place for air to be trapped. The air can’t escape on each withdrawal, so it’s coming out in the "fart". It isn’t something to be worried about, and is more an indication of high passion than anything else. As for the dryness part - when you are being penetrated from behind and you are on your knees, your uterus is sort of on its head, and all that nice juicy fluid that you lubricate with is running downhill (toward your head). This means that there isn’t much back there where all of the friction from your partner’s penetration is. This happens even if (or especially if) you use condoms, because there is *never* enough lubrication on condoms to prevent this.
It is exactly for this reason that we consider lubricant (like Liquid Silk) a sex toy. Not only will it take care of the dryness, but you also won’t tear your skin (which can hurt for days afterward). Liquid Silk will also soak into your skin eventually, and it’s thick enough that is doesn’t run as far downhill as some other lubricants we’ve tried.
And then about the "peeing" part: you, you lucky one, are getting so much friction on your G-Spot in this position, that you are ejaculating! This is not pee! Wow - all you have to do is grab a towel next time. (I say wow, because most women don’t ejaculate with vaginal penetration by a penis - usually the angle isn’t good enough.)
So don’t worry about it, but if it’s uncomfortable for you, change positions a bit to let the air out before it builds up, and to vary the friction on your G-Spot. And whatever you do, be sure to giggle and laugh when the air escapes - laughter makes sex even more fun!