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One reviewer writes: "I am amazed at what this book has done for me...now I am learning to communicate my needs and desires, and my partner and I are having the best sex ever! I realized that it is not only okay, but good for me to be sexually satisfied. There are so many aspects of the book that have helped me. Mikaya Heart writes from a very personal level ... she understands what women like me struggle with every day. She examines so many angles of orgasm, from emotional, to technical, to spiritual. She also includes the words and experiences of many different women. I could see that there are other women out there like me. It was so empowering!
"This book was a life saver for both my partner and myself. I am finally learning how to have the orgasms I've only dreamed about!" A wonderful book about the experience of orgasm from the perspectives of both lesbians and heterosexual women. Bits of technique are interspersed with lots of stories - a worthwhile book to accompany you on your journey to sexual satisfaction. Author: M. Heart
Another of our reviewers writes:
"This book is very validating. It is relevant for all women, orgasmic or not, and explores what orgasm is. Heart doesn't try to prove a particular point or convince the reader of something; instead, she provides a lot of information and raises a lot of questions for the reader to consider and make her own decisions. Instead of seeking to ultimately define orgasm once and for all, she seeks to expand the reader's concept of orgasm. It's not just a physical experience, but also an energetic (i.e. metaphysical), emotional, mental, and spiritual experience. Heart speaks from her own experience and that of many other women who wrote in, who have widely different experiences (i.e. sexual orientation, sexual preferences, age, life situations). While the women do have commonalities in their experiences of orgasm, there are a lot of interesting differences, and Heart acknowledges that all of these experiences are valid and real. Heart does a good job of allowing room for all of these divergent viewpoints and experiences. Although she speaks from her own experience, she doesn't do so with overwhelming authority--instead she lets women's voices and possibilities shine through.
I like that she explores the frustrations that can surround orgasm with as much honesty as she does the more positive emotions. She discusses the fact that women often aren't orgasmic with a partner even though they may be on their own. Interestingly, she suggests that not having an orgasm isn't the problem, it's a symptom of not being as open and trusting as you could be. She examines the high expectations women have of themselves and their bodies, and the reasons women may fake an orgasm. In the section "The New Focus: Women's Pleasure," she explains that men's focus on "making" women come, while better than not paying any attention to their partners needs, causes a lot of pressure and guilt for women. She claims that, in this situation, "men are the the doers, and women are the recievers; men are just trying to do it better," and suggests that it would be better if everyone involved just tried to enjoy the experience as best as possible instead of focusing on "giving" their partner an orgasm.
She also doesn't make assumptions about her readers; for example, she doesn't assume that everyone wants to be orgasmic, which is refreshing."
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