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Description:
DVD only.This is a sexually explicit instructional tour of the basics of dominating a man. Nina Hartley, adult film star, erotic dancer, registered nurse & sex educator, discusses basic information about how to engage in the sensual domination of a man and then hosts some demonstrations to illustrate her points. This is a good introduction to the topic of female domination of men, but is not thorough enough for our reviewers who practice this in real life. So check out the books to the right, as well as this video, if you are serious about exploring female domination/male submission in your own sex life. 81 min. Produced in 2002. Directed by Ernest Greene. This DVD does not have region-specific coding, and is playable all over the world, as long as the machine can play in NTSC format.
Here's what one of our reviewers had to say about this movie:
Nina Hartley mangages to take a topic fraught with misconception, fear and titillation and make it both sexy and approachable. Her definition of sensual domination is: "a style of sex play in which consenting partners agree to assume or surrender control to another person temporarily for mutual pleasure." She briefly mentions the term "BDSM" but pretty much leaves it alone, and addresses some common misconceptions (i.e. the politics of it: she says that the bedroom is no place for politics, and I couldn't agree more). Her explanation of the whats, hows, and whys of it is lucid and down-to-earth. For someone really into BDSM, this approach might seem watered down, but this movie isn't for that person. It's for those (heterosexual) couples who want to add elements of dominance and submission into their "otherwise rich and varied sex life."
After watching this movie, a couple could presumably act out everything in it; there is nothing inherently dangerous demonstrate!
d: no actual bondage, no clamps, no paddles--although she does use a (very soft leather) flogger, which I would hope couples would learn how to use properly. I thought it was interesting (and pretty ingenious) for them to simulate bondage during the scenes by having the men keep their hands on poles. She does discuss safety (i.e. briefly touches on safewords) and emphasizes that this kind of play is not for everyone, so it should be carefully considered and researched. Again and again, she emphasizes the vital importance of mutual pleasure and consent; at the end, she says that, no matter who is in charge, it should be your love that is ultimately in control. I think that her emphasis of these points is an excellent way to make sensual domination understandable to and relevant for viewers. I also like that the way she goes about the domination scene also emphasizes these points. Both partners are clearly consenting to what is happening, they are both very loving and expressive and clearly having fun. While she discusses the role of costumes and props and performs in a well-equipped play room, she claims that none of these things is neccessary for this kind of play. You don't have to be a dominatrix, you don't have to have lots of toys or a play room. She says that "we all have private play spaces in our minds" and that we can "invite our partners into that space," which struck me as incredibly apt. So it's a great starting point for couples who are curious about this kind of intimate play, but perhaps intimidated by explicitly SM resources. It's different from Whipsmart in this way. Whipsmart, while similarly approachable, is much more about BDSM, and demonstrates activities that couples would really need to research more fully (bondage, wax play). So the audience of these two movies differs slightly (although someone who enjoyed Nina's guide and wants to know more would do well to watch Whipsmart).
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