How to choose a game
posted: 10/07/2008 12:00 am
Dear Sex Counselor,
My partner and I would like to get a sexy game to play together, but I'm not sure how to choose one. Can you help?
Games are a great way to have fun with a partner while discovering or introducing new ideas to your erotic play. Here’s a guide to help you choose a sexy game or two to make your playtime more exciting.
We have games that encourage you to be more playful with your partner, games designed to enhance romance, games to help you increase intimacy and foster communication, and "spicy," adventurous games. The games are listed under the following categories; however, many of them could fit into more than one category.
Enhance a romantic getaway (whether to the bedroom or a vacation spot) with Bed of Roses. This kit includes exactly that: silk rose petals, rose-scented oil, and four tealight candles to help you set a romantic mood. Sprinkle the roses in the bed or create a trail of roses from the front door to wherever you want to play.
If you want to add an entire year of romance to your life, the 52 Weeks of Romance Kit is a good place to start. To make the most of it, pull a card from the satin pouch every week and scratch it off. What’s revealed will provide you and your partner with a romantic activity in which to engage throughout the week. From love notes to I.O.U.s, this game will keep you and your partner on your toes for 52 weeks and beyond.
Strip Chocolate is a fun and tasty way to spice up an otherwise unrevealing evening. Seductively slide off one article of clothing after another. Perform a dare or draw pictures on tantalizing spots on your lover’s body with chocolate body frosting. Play the after-game "favors" round to explore high stakes of your own creations.
The Card Game for Lovers is one of our favorite games to play when you want to have a sexy romp that’s a little out of the ordinary. You can play this game for a long time, or you can just choose a few cards and do what they say -- either way you’re guaranteed to have fun with each other. This game is focused on lots of erotic touch and sexy talk, and can be played again and again without disappointment.
Or play 52 Alluring Sex Games for Lovers, a game that can be played all the way through, one card at a time, or any time! Each of the 52 cards offers an exciting game that you and your love can play with the help of a little ice cream, a shower, a blindfold ... you get the idea. It’s a portable way to perk up an average day or a weekend away!
Playful Dice are fun and funky pink dice, one of which has a body part (male and female), the other of which has an action (lick, kiss, etc). Roll them together for an infinite variety of ways to initiate or continue frolicking with your partner! If you want to lavish a female partner with loving attention, try the Happy Kitty Dice -- they’re very similar to the Playful Dice, but list only female body parts.
For more touch and sensual intimacy, try the Lover's Massage Kit for ideas on how to give more than your average massage. Each kit contains a die and a deck of full-color photographs, illustrating a new technique to try with your partner.
Intimate 4Play is a great game for couples that have been together for years and are looking to reconnect, as well as for couples that are just getting to know each other. To play the game, you and your partner answer questions or fulfill actions as stated on the 74 playing cards. The cards are divided into five topics, including Humor, Intellect, Romance, Sex, and Eroticism, giving you and your partner plenty of opportunities to learn more about each other.
Perhaps you want to connect without the commitment of a lengthy game. 52 Ways to Stay in Love Forever and 52 Cheap Dates provide wonderful moments that you can build with each other. All the instructions are right on each card, and the amount of time to spend varies from 20 minutes to an entire day. They provide a simple, fun solution to the "Honey, what do you want to do tonight?" question.
Enchanted Evening is another excellent choice for couples that are looking to re-ignite the spark in their relationship. The game begins with each player writing down her or his secret romantic wish, which will be granted to the player who finishes the most questions first. These questions are often open-ended, allowing the players to discuss their personal opinions about intimacy and sexuality. This game gives couples the tools to slow down, enjoy each other, and re-learn why they fell in love with each other.
Fan the Flames is a great game for new couples and long-term partners alike. The players start by writing an erotic or romantic wish on a blank card to be completed at the end of the game. Then, you quiz each other with the included "guess cards." Most of the questions are not sexual and focus more on your partner’s personality. As you answer more questions correctly about your partner, you not only move ahead on the playing board, but you also get to choose an "action card" to be performed on you by your partner. This is a romantic game designed to get you communicating, laughing, and touching each other more -- and both players always win!
52 Weeks of Passionate Sex is a delightful collection of goodies designed to help you keep the passion flowing all year long. Several of the items this kit includes are: a book of "instant passion starters" that are designed to help busy couples find ideas for a spicier sex life, 24 "love cards", a blindfold, and a heart-shaped sponge. If you’re seeking something to help you get out of a rut, add this to your intimacies (along with a nice bottle of lubricant). It might just make the next 52 weeks a lot more fun!
Spicy, adventurous games
Wildly Sexy Dares is the spiciest game we offer. It is designed to be played over a couple of months as opposed to one evening, with an Ultimate Grand Prize of the players’ choosing to be awarded to the winner. It takes you through three stages of sexy, romantic, or erotic dares (mild, hot, and extra-spicy). This game is a good way for heterosexual couples to playfully explore fantasies and encourage experimentation.
To incorporate spice and spirituality into your love life, we suggest Kama Sutra. This very popular game is based on the Kama Sutra, the oldest and one of the most widely used sex manuals. Kama Sutra draws from the ancient text to create a sensual, playful atmosphere where you and your lover can explore each other. This game stresses the importance of making time for consensual erotic play that uses all five senses in order to take eroticism to a higher level. The game includes cards with nicely illustrated positions from the original Kama Sutra book ranging from "easy" to "very difficult" (our non-yogic reviewers found the positions comfortable and stimulating), but the focus of the game lies more on communicating your sexual desires to your partner. This game is a good choice for couples who want to incorporate more adventure, exploration, and erotic spirituality into their relationship.
Finally, Sensations is high on our list of favorites. Not only does it encourage you to explore different physical sensations, it also includes different toys for you to experiment with, including a small vibrator and a blindfold. The premise of the game is to complete more "challenges" than your partner, thereby earning more "favor" cards. While the challenges do include some "getting to know you" questions, they are mainly steamy sexual dares. The person with the most favor cards at the end of the game wins; the winner has 30 days to redeem all of their coupons. One of the most overtly sexual of our games, this is an excellent way to introduce the idea of using a vibrator or blindfold to your sex play to spice things up.
The Sex Counselor